Because I am bored and desperately trying to find something to do other than school work, I decided to read an article about Adele. I should have stopped at the end of the piece, but instead I felt the need to read some of the comments. BIG MISTAKE! Some people are just ignorant.
Rather than the comments having anything to do with the actual article, or with Adele’s outstanding talent, they are filled with some calling her names, like ‘fat pig,’ and others defending her in her plus-size body. I won’t go off on a tangent about people having nothing better to do, because here I sit furiously typing through my anger over how idiotic perfect strangers are! HA!
What I do want to say, though, is that this kind of mean-spirited bullying is exactly what causes our young people to have so many issues with their bodies today. We can’t all be beautiful. We can’t all be uber thin. We can’t all be musical. We can’t all be athletic. When a teenage (or pre-teen, or 20-something) young girl reads these types of comments she can’t help but look at herself and wonder how others perceive her. Based on the article’s comments people are judged by how they look rather than on their merit. So, she learns that outward appearance is more important than anything else. She doesn’t learn this simply from hateful comments, either. She has grown up looking at flawlessly beautiful people on the cover of magazines, in movies, on TV, on the runway, etc. Our society has taught her that beauty is the ultimate prize.
In my humble opinion, Adele is gorgeous. Sure, she may have a few extra pounds on her, but it isn’t like she is morbidly obese. I certainly haven’t seen her be the spokeswoman for Krispy Kreme. She isn’t promoting an unhealthy lifestyle. And, the last time I checked being a musician has absolutely zero to do with whether or not a person could fit into a size 0 skirt.
Well said!! I was thinking this earlier today. When did a persons worth, talent, kindness, goodness and general self worth become based as better or worse on their size??? Why does everything in this world, especially pertaining to women, have to do with how “skinny” or “fat” we are? When I die I don’t want my eulogy, headstone and legacy to be remember by my waist size.
Excellent comments from both women. However, I would say that we ARE all beautiful! Regardless of our exterior looks, size, etc what is iniside is far more important. What young people need to be taught is how to accept themselves, ‘warts and all’, love themselves despite their flaws and look at ‘nasty’ comments about themselves as the attitude of a jealous person who hasn’t accepted themselves, doesn’t like their flaws and thus hates themselves. I am convinced that this is the root of all bullying whether by children or adults.